I came back to this post http://www.igniterealtime.org/community/docs/DOC-1553 and saw some updates. First I was trying sparkweb with the http-bind instructions there and I don't think http-bind is working on my server, when I go here https://chat.tbcnet.biltmore.com:7443/ I get a 404 error. I am running 3.5.1 and there is an http-bind port enabled, I don't really see where else to enable it.
secondly, I am trying to get the red5 version and it keeps timing out and reseting on me, now it seems not responsive at all. Does anyone have another link for the red5 version they would be willing to share?